The Ice Pick Cometh

The Ovary Gremlin is here. I hate that fucker. It hardly ever happens to me. I've never been one to suffer from "female issues", at least not since those awful cramps of high school. No PMS or any of that. But the Ovary Gremlin is getting his evil on today, wielding his ice pick of doom. I mean the kind of evil where you can't stand up straight, and feel compelled to hurl obscenities behind the effort. Satan's Asshole!*

Sadistic little bastard.

The plan was to work from home a partial day today, while also attending to some things that need doing around the house. Like cleaning. And laundry. You know, those little extras that make a house a home. This pretty much shoots that plan in the ass. Or the ovary. The left one, to be specific. Which makes no sense, timing-wise, as Aunt Flo has come and gone, and I am not in the 'window of fertility', but whatever.

I'm attending the Seattle Race Conference tonight -- hopefully without the Gremlin -- and all day tomorrow. Yes, there's Sunday, but seriously people, going full bore all week, then spending Sunday cleaning and errand-running is a sure recipe for bitchiness and slackassedness the following Monday.

I really hate when I take some time off from work and then have to waste it over some kind of health issue. You think I want to actually use my sick leave for being sick? Please. When you're really sick, you're just grateful for that time to lie under your comforter, dozing in front of old movies and moaning pitifully. But this ... I'm not sick, I'm antsy because I'm wasting perfectly good sick leave being not-sick instead of getting things done.

It's all about sadistic hijinx with the Ovary Gremlin. He'd better be done with me by 5:30 tonight.

None of this is made better by the fact that I was insomniacing last night. Yes, I just coined a verb. Anyway, since I knew I wasn't getting up early to head on in to the office, I was doing my usual online multitasking - checking up on the lastest Republican anti-gay politician in my state caught soliciting gay sex, reading porn at certain blogbuddy sites, drooling over books even though I have a huge unread backlog, and paying online bills. I finally checked out Smilebox, which a few people -- both cyber and "real" -- have talked about. You've probably seen creations over at Lorraine's, who will, I'm sure, be happy to know she was absolutely correct in that Smilebox is basically cybercrack. I think another blogger provided her first taste.

Thus begins the ugly cycle of addiction.

I made this huge slide show for my mom, partly to make up for the fact that I, once again, did not get my father's birthday card out on time. This is a huge deal to the folks. I suck at things like that. I am the world's worst daughter.

Anyway, so I'm merrily Smileboxing away, putting this thing together, when I realize it is 4:00 in the morning. What the hell? I mean, I've heard about one's sense of time being skewed while under the influence of drugs, but this is ridiculous. Crap. Hey, give me a break, there are three kids so really it's like triple the slideshows, triple the fun. Which sounds way more productive.

Anyway, hopefully this will be a change from the usual Kodak Gallery slideshows of the kids for my mom. Take her mind off of my slackass card deficiency. Maybe I'll post it here after I change the caption names. My mom would wonder why the hell the kids were labeled Radical Bohemian or Teen Demon or Male Offspring. Then again, maybe she wouldn't.


*Credit: delightfully effective curse shamelessly stolen from the Radical Bohemian. Her creativity astounds me, as always.

Holy Hallows, Batman!

Happy Halloween, all you tricksters.

I hope you get many yummy treats. And candy, too.

This is a shot from a colleague who has an amazingly complex story in tattoos across his upper body. The story starts from a young man and goes through his life, using more symbolism than I can even begin to get. Those professor types! Anyway, he's nearly finished w/ the series, and brought me photos today. This one was fitting, given the occasion.


Male Offspring's last football game is tonight. Which means not trick-or-treating. What the heck, doesn't the school district know that 14-year-olds are holding on to those last vestiges of childhood, like trick-or-treating? What's next, telling my son there's no Santa? Because I know he still believes in some Santa, y'all. Anyway, Male Offspring was very disappointed. I told him run a touchdown in for me, and I'll get you all the candy you want. It's not the same though.

The fact that they know, at this age, that they're nearing the end of childhood, makes it sadder.

The football game also means my house will be unattended on Halloween. Yeah, that's just great. And Mason with his separation anxiety, too. I'm thinking bunches of little tricksters pounding up to the door and buzzing the doorbell over and over and over and over will probably not be the most Zen experience for my boy. No dogs allowed at this stadium. If I leave a bowl of candy out for the honor system, the little monsters still have to come up the driveway to the porch. If I just leave the lights out, probably best, but then I run the risk of eggs and TP.

Beastly little heathens.

Teen Demon is working tonight. Last night she was up at the high school for "Spooky Street". Every year the high schoolers set up a safe Halloween alternative for the wee tykes. Parents can bring their little angels to Spooky Street, for fun booths and trick or treating. Teen Demon's booth was Candy Land, based on that childhood classic board game of the same name. Teen Demon and the Bohemian spent hours playing that game as tykes. The Bohemian still insists that her sister is a Candy Land cheater.

This year, Teen Demon took Batman to Spooky Street. No, he did not dress up as Batman. That would be cliché. He dressed up as a bumble bee. Batman is kind of a freak. He loves costumes. It's one of his "tricks". He loves tricks, and can do a lot of them, including "look for love" (turns in a circle), "bust a move" (jumps up, puts his paws on your hands), "take a bow", along with the usual beg, roll over, shake, and the rest.

Mason can do down and sit. That's pretty much it for Mason.

So Batman loves costumes. He prances around in any type of clothing. He especially likes Teen Demon's cheerleader skirt, but will pretty much wear anything. Except hats. Or bumble bee antennae.

Last night at Spooky Street, he was a star attraction. There was one other dog, a little thing, the kind that probably wears clothes all the time and can ride in a purse. This doglet was dressed up like Batman. I think the owner was confused that our dog's name is Batman, but he was dressed like a bee.

Why do people not get that concept?

Anyway, he loved the kids. One older lady asked if he was a service dog! He really is a good dog - we've thought about getting him certified to be a therapy dog, but the only thing with that is, you have to pledge to give them a bath EVERY time they "work". I agree they need to be clean, and bathed more than other dogs, but every single time? Like within three days of his last bath? Crazy. If he were some purse-sized yipper I could throw in the sink, okay, but it's seriously backbreaking work to bathe these two monsters. Anyway. So he had a good time and was a hit on Spooky Street.

I love that last pic - both of them had just closed their mouths and perked their ears to listen to something, and their lips got stuck in their teeth - ha!

Hope your Halloween is spooky and full of treats. And if any of you jokers come near with my house with eggs or soap, my dogs will bite your ass. They're vicious, now. The Labrador in them really comes out when threatened. So think about that.

Skank It Up, Ladies!

So Teen Demon calls the other day from Value Village. For those shoppers not acquainted with funky chic, Value Village is a huge thrift store. Halloween is the one time of year when they also get new items in - costumes, tights, masks, hair paint, crowns, capes, sabers, you name it. They are Halloween Central for the bargain shopper.

Teen Demon went to procure a suitable Halloween costume to fest things up at her place of employment. She slings fish part time at a local fast food seafood joint.

Anyway, my phone rings:

Annoying T-Mobile jingle!

Me: Hello?

Teen Demon: So, I'm here at Value Village, and I can't find a costume.

Me: How can you possibly not find a costume at Value Village? They're the holy grail of costume outlets.

Teen Demon: Yeah, if you're a guy. The costumes for girls are either slutty or Goth. Or both. Yeah. It's like, I can be a French Maid, a nurse, or witch that basically looks like a prostitute. They're really skanky.

Me: Oh, that.

Teen Demon: They should just go ahead and make a costume called "Skank Ho".

Me: 'Tis the season to be skanky.

Teen Demon: Pretty much. The guys get all the cool costumes, and they can even stay warm in theirs. They have cool masks and hello, the costumes actually cover their arms and legs. This is stupid.

Me: Maybe get a guy costume?

Teen Demon: Yeah right, like I want to be Frankenstein. I just want a normal cute costume that's not a slutty. Maybe I'll just get a little kid's pumpkin or Raggedy Ann costume.

Photo from Post Secret, discovered by Teen Demon

She ended up getting a pirate costume, which was very cute. Still a bit alarming for her mother, but yes, I'm fully aware that's my issue, due to the fact that she's flippin' gorgeous and a burlap sack would still look too good on her in her mother's opinion. Yeah, whatever, shut up -- you try having a daughter who looks like Teen Demon and see how long you hold onto that progressive and open-minded attitude. Those nasty boys circle around like jackals eyeing a kill. What's good for the goose is definitely not good for the gosling here, people. Not until she's 30.

Her costume was good though, very piratey. Her pseudo-Aunt, (previously referred to here as either My Bitch or that cynical Sicilian lurker) lent her some above-the-knee lace up leather boots that went perfectly with it - she looked great.

Of course, those boots have seen more stories than you'll ever find out about on this blog. I am not even joking. But that's another story. (Start a blog, you lurker.)

So it got me thinking about Halloween costumes and the whole gender thing. That's right, kids! We're hopping back on board the gender train! Halloween costumes are very different for men and women. It's like the costume makers are saying, "Hey gals, now that inner slutty girl we you secretly want you to be can come out with no repercussions!"

And actually ... there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not here to get all Taliban about sexy costumes. Nothing wrong with feeling hot. I think a lot of women appreciate the occasional excuse to indulge in slutting it up a bit. Yours truly included. What's more fun than Halloween in a mini skirt, knee-high black boots, and a cat tail? Meow.

What's not OK is when it becomes an expectation rather than an option.

It's not so fun when 9 out of 10 "girl costumes" at the costume mega-store involve you displaying your wares, when you're not about displaying them. Especially when the "guy costumes" actually show some creativity and imagination. And keep them warm.

Some of the names, too, just scream MALE FANTASY! Like Fallen Angel just above, with the black Goth wings. And hot boots. The witch up at the top of the page? Candy Corn Witch. Yummy! And this little lady to your right is not a Pirate, oh no, not even a Lady Pirate. No sir, this here's the Captain's Wench, maties. Ruffled, for his pleasure.

Oh, and who do we have here? Why, it's the Heavenly Devil! Madonna-Whore, anyone? *Yawn* Some imagination please, guys.

As a mother of teenaged girls, I must admit that Sexy Scholar down there causes me to morph into a downright prude. And Cowbell is not usually about the prudery. Come on guys, don't you have nieces or daughters? I don't know why the school girl fantasy is such a big one. Grown women too intimidating? The lure of flesh unspoiled by rivals too appealing? Or is your ego loving the fact that - since she doesn't know what she's doing - she'll think you're a sex god? If it's that whole Daddy figure thing, seriously, go get therapy, dude. Yes, 15 is a child.

And I won't even go into how all the models here are young skinny blonde white chicks. Oh, I take that back - Heavenly Devil is a young skinny brunette white chick. My bad. You can bet that my ass is not squeezing into one of those costumes, that's for damn sure. Somehow I doubt that the Candy Corn Witch costume has the same effect in a one-size-fits-all version.



I was talking to the Radical Bohemian about it on the phone, and she brought up an excellent point: guy costumes are about anonymity. Guy costumes mask the wearer, literally.

Guy costumes are also largely about power or fear. Monsters, psychos, superheroes, prisoners, muscle men, biker dudes, pirates, wizards ... characters that allow men to feel powerful or to inspire fear or respect in others. Anonymously.

Women's costumes, by contrast, are not anonymous, they are about revealing us. They are not about power, they are about availability and packaging us up in a way that appeals to typical male fantasies.

Interesting.

Sexy costumes and scary costumes are both fun, in different ways. So why not spread the love?

Costume manufacturers: more imaginitive - and warm - costumes for women that do not revolve around your fantasies, please. And try to not to be too disappointed when I want a scary costume that covers me from head to toe. And more sexy costumes for the mens, please. Can we get just some options and equity when tricking and treating? Is that so much to ask?

Tonka: Built for Boyhood!

I've got toys on my mind. No, not toys for grown-up ladies, you naughty freaks. Toys for kids. Specifically, girl toys and boy toys.

Gender-specific toys.

Our favorite Big Ass Belle recently posted about "girl toys" by PLAYSKOOL. Meaning, of course, pink and flowery toys that revolve around, what else?

Housework!

Lynette's Girl Toys post brought to mind a Tonka commercial I saw recently, advertising their toys which are "built for boyhood". Yep, Tonka is Celebrating 60 Years of Boyhood! It turns out Hasbro is the parent company of both Tonka and PLAYSKOOL.

That's right, PLAYSKOOL, of Rose Petal fame, and Tonka, built for boyhood, wedded together to helpfully model gender-appropriate play. How precious. The commercials for PLAYSKOOL's Rose Petal Cottage include this sugary sweet melody:

I love when my laundry gets so clean,
Taking care of my home is a dream, dream, dream!
In Rose Petal Cottage, my home,
A place of my very own!
So "taking care of my home" is the dream, dream, dream PLAYSKOOL wants for Teen Demon and the Bohemian? Because they're girls? I'm sorry, but washing socks and mopping crusty bits off the floor isn't exactly what I dreamed of for them while watching them sleep in their cribs.

It's sure as hell not what they're dreaming of for themselves. I know this because of the dirty socks and crusty bits on their floors.  No interest.  They could a Rose Petal attitude adjustment, come to think of it ...

At Hasbro.com, we learn that the Rose Petal Cottage

empowers preschool girls to use their imagination inside and around their very own play space, featuring everything they need to role-play alone or with friends.

From baking muffins to washing clothes to caring for their dolls, girls now have a place where they can set their imaginations free.

"Everything" a girl needs to set her imagination free? Is there no one in their marketing department without a penis? See, this is what happens when there's no diversity in hiring, people.  Maybe a toy kitchen is one thing to set imagination free.  And guess what, Tonka, my son loved the hell out of his toy kitchen.


And Tonka. Here's what their current commercial has to say about our future heads of households:

Boys! What can you say? They're just built different.
And now ... they can play their way!
It's built around what he does naturally. It's a shape sorter - or not!
Then, it helps him learn to walk. And chase!
Then [it's] his own sweet ride - from baby to big boy. All in one toy.
Let's face it; boys are built different.
And Tonka's got the blueprint.

Built different?  (Also, differently*, Tonka.  Adverb.)

So ... boys "naturally" exercise their minds and bodies by sorting shapes, running and chasing, while girls need nothing more than a pink playhouse to serve as "an entire world where your little girl can play, discover and explore."

Entire world?

Trouble with that is, the world they want my little girl to discover and explore is comprised of only a laundry room, nursery and kitchen. Probably she'll be expected to clean up after Tonka-boy, since he's shown tracking mud all through the house in his commercial, while mom smiles indulgently.



I find this purposeful gender-based marketing very disturbing. The unspoken gender expectations are ingrained so deeply within our society, it's virtually impossible to avoid them. So when toy companies purposefully SAY things like "boys are built different" and "taking care of my home is a dream, dream, dream", it leaves no doubt in kids' minds as to what's expected of them. What is "normal".

When toy companies purposely perpetuate gender roles, that pisses me off, because they're making my job harder as a parent.

If my little boy believes certain activities are more suited for him, likewise he will develop the belief that other activities and expectations are more suited for the girls and women in his life. Not only will he feel comfortable playing with trucks or light sabers, he'll also feel comfortable expecting the girls in his life not to do those things.

Tonka has told him that trucks are "built for boys". If I do nothing to balance the messages Tonka and PLAYSKOOL are sending him, he may one day feel comfortable with his mother, sisters, or wife in their Rose Petal kitchens, making that sandwich for him while he's out in the living room watching the game.

Um, no.

Male Offspring knows that females are all about watching the game. He would no sooner expect me to hit the kitchen before half-time than he would expect me to sprout wings and fly.



So, what about little Suzy, careening her Tonka truck around the living room? What about the little boy who loves playhouse tea parties and hates mud? How do they feel after seeing these commercials? Especially little Johnny. Society can deal with a tomboy, but a girlieman? Not so much. Chances are, Johnny will soon learn to keep that shit under wraps and play with the damn truck. At least when people are watching.

Both of them are getting a clear message about what it means to be a "normal" girl or boy.



My kids had gender-specific toys, sure.

Teen Demon was a wild hellion in her day. She loved her Little Tykes kitchen, and her pink doll stroller -- pink is still her favorite color -- and the girl bakes like, well, a demon. But, she also rode her Tonka truck like demolition derby time. She personally brought out my appreciation for that whole Tonka Tough thing, before Male Offspring ever came on the scene. She had a toy tool belt that she wore everywhere. With pink hiking boots. She didn't take any guff from little boys.

Yes, Male Offspring loved him some trucks and 'dozers. Tonka would've loved to have his rough-and-tumble boy-behind in their commercials. He was all about the boy toys. They probably would've cut scene, though, when he came clacking onto the set in his sisters' dress up clothes, sporting a pink tutu, white gloves and pearls with a purple straw hat. He adored the pastel pink Little Tykes Cottage. Especially talking on the toy phone, which should've given me some warning as to the boy's future cell phone addiction.

So yeah, my kids loved their girl toys and boy toys. Not like you can really avoid it. Nevertheless, according to Tonka & PLAYSKOOL, my kids were a bit confused as as to proper play for their respective genders.




Well, fear not - no more fretting over ambiguous gender behavior! Tonka, in order to help you navigate the gender divide, has helpfully provided Parenting Advice for Boys.

(Hey, Tonka, I'm pretty sure you meant to give parenting advice to parents of boys, not the little tykes themselves, right? How much do you pay your editor?)
Anyway, if your little darling sports a penis, don't worry, Mom, help is on the way:

Little boys can seem like alien creatures, especially to Moms who were raised as little girls! So to help you speak "boy language," here are some tips from Lawrence Cohen, PhD, Playskool Advisor and author of Playful Parenting.

Heavens! How did I ever manage to raise Male Offspring without learning to speak "boy language"? No worries - Doc Lawrence has tips to help clueless moms decipher their little boys:

(Yes, this shit is actually up at the Tonka site )

9-18 months: During this stage, your son will be learning all about himself, including what it means to be a boy... you can keep the emotional connection going by having your own truck that rolls alongside his (or sometimes gently crashes into his!).

My own truck? Are you sure, Lawrence, because ... I'm a girl. I'm "built different".

2-3 yrs: This is also the stage where "boy humor" begins; this type of humor--filled with jokes about body parts and bodily functions ... seems to be a product of some combination of boy biology and boy social training.

So fart jokes come from "boy biology"? What does that even mean? Is there a gene for fart jokes?

3-5 yrs: Some mothers try to eliminate every expression of aggression from boys’ play, but that doesn’t work--and besides, if we got rid of all aggressive stories, we’d have to exclude stories from Shakespeare, the Bible, and even history books!

The Bible? How'd that get slipped into a toy site?

And get this:

All Ages & Stages: Recognize that your son is absorbing all sorts of information from TV and movies, including many messages about what is expected from boys and men. The media -- and our own expectations -- can give boys the wrong idea that there is only one very narrow definition of masculinity.

No shit, Lawrence! Media like ... Tonka commercials and this website, asshat! How did they not catch that?

I call bullshit, Tonka. This guy should not be giving parenting advice. You should not be paying him.


So ...

---What if ... all types of play were presented as a choice for all kids? Without the frilly pink or tough blue packaging.

---What if nobody thought a thing about Johnny having tea party with his teddy bears, or playing with playhouse dolls?

---What if Suzy could play Pop Warner football or collect model cars instead of Barbies ... without being called a tomboy, without folks assuring her mom she'll "grow out of it"?

---Maybe then, Johnny grows up to be a sous chef in some fancyass restaurant. Or an awesome stay at home dad who knows how to fix a furnace and connect with his kids. Maybe Suzy fixes cars or runs a corporation.

---And maybe, if that were the case, taking care of a home might truly be seen as an option for both genders, not an expectation for one. In which case, it would probably be valued a lot more than it is now. Then role models - and advertising - for kids would be a whole lot different.

Maybe then Suzy feels OK being a cheerleader ...

... and a football player.

And maybe her brother grows up thinking his sister is pretty cool, and not necessarily girlie ...

...because he remembers

carrying that cheerleader's

football pads.

Yes, as a matter of fact, that was a shameless excuse to post cute pics of Teen Demon and Male Offspring. But there is a related point:

Teen Demon recently found out that her school no longer allows male cheerleaders. What? Apparently, there used to be guys on the football/basketball cheer squad. (Teen Demon cheers for wrestling - because the football/b'ball squad is a bunch of Barbie-bitches. According to her.) But the advisor - an adult - decided she didn't want guys on the squad about three years back.

What's sad is Teen Demon actually knows a couple of guys who would like to cheer. And, she said, it would actually make a better cheer squad, on account of the awesome stunts they'd be able to do with guys in the mix.

Male Offspring was in the room during this conversation, and he didn't snicker or make faces. What he said was, "That sucks. If girls can do wrestling and football, it's not fair that guys can't cheer. That's just dumb."

No, son, it's not fair, and it is dumb. I'm glad the kids were bothered by this, rather than thinking "cheerleading's for girls". If it were up to Hasbro, however, that would've been a different conversation.

And that's what's pissing me off about these commercials.

Friday Videos - A Case of Joni

Close your mouth. Yes, Cowbell made the deadline. It's actually hard for me to watch videos. I'm too much of a multi-tasker. I can't stand to sit and do nothing but watch for 4 minutes. Opening it to another window works, because then I can continue doing crap, but it also means I can't actually SEE the video, which, when it comes to videos, kind of defeats the purpose.

This video though, is special. It is absolutely my favorite song ever.

Most of you are aware that I worship at the church of Joni Mitchell. She is seriously a genius. She is an artist, a painter, a poet, a singer, a songwriter. Creative genius. If she would have me, I'd so devote my life and passion to her, regardless of the fact that she is a smoker and doesn't have a penis. Those things just don't matter when it comes to Joni.

This song is A Case of You, and it is beautiful, both music and lyrics. The video is a slide show of photos of Joni along with some of her paintings. The lyrics are below, because they're just that damn good.

Especially the middle verse.




A Case of You

Just before our love got lost you said
I am as constant as a northern star
And I said, constant in the darkness
Where's that at?
If you want me I'll be in the bar

On the back of a cartoon coaster
In the blue tv screen light
I drew a map of canada
Oh canada
And your face sketched on it twice


Oh you are in my blood like holy wine
Oh and you taste so bitter, but you taste so sweet
Oh I could drink a case of you
I could drink a case of you darling
And I would still be on my feet
Oh I'd still be on my feet


Oh I am a lonely painter
I live in a box of paints
I'm frightened by the devil
And I'm drawn to those ones that ain't afraid

I remember that time that you told me, you said
Love is touching souls
Surely you touched mine
Cause part of you pours out of me
In these lines from time to time


Oh you are in my blood like holy wine
And you taste so bitter, but you taste so sweet
Oh I could drink a case of you
I could drink a case of you darling
Still I'd be on my feet
And still be on my feet


I met a woman
She had a mouth like yours
She knew your life
She knew your devils and your deeds
And she said
Go to him, stay with him if you can
Oh but be prepared to bleed


Oh but you are in my blood you're my holy wine
Oh and you taste so bitter, bitter and so sweet
Oh I could drink a case of you darling
Still I'd be on my feet
I'd still be on my feet

mmmmm

~Joni Mitchell

Shock Value

So, as far as the burning outlet fiasco, the electricity is working fine. [hastily pounds wood]

Wait ... that didn't sound right, but I'm leaving it because y'all are a bunch of freaks.

I know this because in my last post, the thing that apparently resonated in your heads was my one flip comment about my ass. Bring up the subject of assage, and you all are on it.

And in response, yes, my ass has been known to cause many a man (and a few of the ladies) to swoon. Someone once called it Helen of Troy. Unfortunately, within the last couple of years, my ass has moved beyond healthy, corn-fed, thick, bodacious, and other euphamisms, right on out the other side. In fact, these days it's more like just Troy. It did have its glory days, though...

Anyway, the dryer outlet has been replaced, and is holding steady. It was just the outlet, not the wiring. Yesss. I had asked the head of maintenance at my workplace to recommend a cheap/honest electrician. He offered to come take a look himself, since I live right up the road from my place of employment. Or maybe because there are no cheap/honest electricians. So, no more laundromat, no more stringing clothes around the house, like before I moved back to the States. How quickly we get spoiled! We will no longer be drying clothes when no one is home, however, because I'm mean and paranoid like that. We narrowly averted a wall-fire, and we have dogs.

I'm considering building a shrine to the home improvement gods, and making periodic sacrifices. If knocking on wood doesn't work.

Smile! The Alternative is Everyone Thinks You're a Bitch!

Isn't that how that saying goes? Something like that, anyway.

So blogbuddy extraordinaire, the Slingster, got hisself a right Shiny New Thing in the way of a You Make Me Smile award. Absolutely fitting because I think I speak for all of us (I've always wanted to say that, and have it be true) when I say he makes everyone smile. A Lot. Sometimes LOL like teenagers, even. He's a friggin' cheer-bringer, can I get a hell-yeah?


Anyway, Sling has made me smile extra today, because he saw fit to bestow this smiley award on yours truly. Shiny New Things make anyone happy, but what made me smile more than anything was the awesome compliment he bestowed along with it:

More Cowbell makes me smile because she calls 'em like she sees 'em. From home repair, to the not-so-subtle bigotry that somehow still exists in this world, if you fuck up, you can bet yer ass you'll get called on the carpet.

Hell yeah, calling it like I sees it, that's about the best thing you could say. Well, that and "My, your ass is really small," but let's face it, that ain't happening. The other part of his compliment was a bit more disturbing, as it let me know that others are, in fact, finding perverse pleasure in my home repair saga. Yeah, laugh it up guys, very funny. What am I, a home improvement clown, here for your entertainment? Fine, give me a month - it might seem funny then.


So, now I need to bestow said Shiny New Thing on 3 more cheer-bringers.

Crap, that's always the downside of these things -- first you're all happy, and you feel all special, but then the other shoe falls, and you realize, "Crap, now I have to pick people". And you have to do that thing everyone does where you talk about how you'd like to pick everyone you read (which, basically, is true, because if you didn't like reading their shit, you wouldn't be reading their shit.) and how will you ever choose (which, basically, is true, because it's like choosing between Mexican food and Indian food ... both kick ass in different ways.)

OK, so, narrow down to 3 bloggers who make me smile.

Evilganome, also known by his street name, Evil-G -- 'cause he's so street -- is funny and surprisingly functional. Whether furiously knitting a fancyass fisherman sweater, threatening to blow up a sports stadium, or cyberly holding my purse, he brings a deliciously demented smile to my day, balanced out by the occasional Deep Thoughts post. Love this guy. Plus, I'm pretty sure he's going to knit me that scarf for reals now.

RG actually deserves a "You Crack My Ass UP" award, but whatever, close enough. I've got to find out what sign he is or something, because I have a special affinity for his particular brand of humor. It's kind of irresistible. The man is twisted with a finely honed sarcastic wit. Always a plus. Plus he's hot. Always a plus. Love your ass, you skinny bitch.

Red7Eric always makes me smile. He often makes me say, "hell yeah!" too. (not in that way, you freaks, it's a totally non-sexual crush, sheesh.) He's always got some interesting shit to say, and he'll throw in funny bits that make me laugh in the middle of it. I guess it's all part of his Big Gay Life. Hi, he's a cheer-bringer.

JP - fuckit, I'm going for 4, because I'm rebellious like that, and let's face it, JP makes everybody laugh. In that enchantingly bitter way. All the damn time. Plus, he makes Fran unsmile, and that's just priceless.


Love my boys. Not to leave the gals out, though. I have a confession. I'm a slacker. It's true. I know you think I'm over here busy with furnaces and meetings and offspring, which is true, but I still find time to blog, and I have been a blogslacker. For instance, Gina memed me some time back, that whole middle name thing, and I still haven't gotten around to that. I can't get past the first letter. The first thing that came to mind was "B ... boobs! My breasts are only big when I'm fat, which is a fucked up trade off." So yeah, I kind of stalled there.

The other blogslacker thing is that some time back, Melody the Crazed Sewer (also cracking my ass up with that name) awarded me the Rockin' Girl Blogger award, which is awesome, because every girl likes to be a rockin' girl, right? Implies you're not a lameass girl, right? Melody is rockin' because the girl sews like a friggin' supernatural being. I mean, she seriously intimidates me, as I got nothing in the way of craft genes. Plus, she's cute, and wears the hell out of her cute clothes that she makes herself.

Anyway, Rockin' Girl Bloggers: the first who came to mind were Whim and Monica, but they've both already got that award, because hello, they're rockin' girl bloggers.

First, I'm saying to hell with the Ex finding me through the linkage thing, and give it to the Radical Bohemian, because she is the most rockin' girl blogger I know. And I should know, I've got the stretchmarks. (just don't mention me over at her site, ha! I comment over there as kolomp.) This chick seriously rocks - I'm so friggin' proud of her, and that's only partly because I'm her mother. She takes a stand, educates herself, and gives back. And talk about calling it like she sees it? Understatement. I admire the hell out of her. Plus, she might take care of me in my old age.

Elizabeth, I dub thee a Rockin' Girl Blogger. Check out her site - she's another calls-it-like-she-sees-it blogger. I appreciate her varied experiences, and like reading about things from her vantage point.

The Hat. Need I explain more? I didn't think so. Hello, she rocks. Period. Again, I think I speak for everyone when I say we all have a totally non-sexual crush on her.


Whew! Now for that meme: B ...

Where's the Beef?

You know what's good?

Crock-pot vegetarian chili, with cornbread.

Grate some cheddar cheese and chop some onions for topping, throw a dollop of plain yogurt on that bad boy to finish it off, and you've got the perfect dinner for suckass Seattle weather.

You traditionalists will probably prefer sour cream in place of the yogurt, but traditionalists probably wouldn't touch chili that doesn't include ground cow muscles anydamnway, so whatever.

You know what I put in my chili that lots of folks think is weird? Cinnamon. I think it's an Ohio thing. Ohioans love some Skyline Chili out of Cincinnati. Cinnamon is their secret ingredient. Their chili has an entirely different taste from any other chili. You can buy a home seasoning packet in the grocery stores there, to make your own Skyline goodness at home.

These days, I just throw some cinnamon in with the cumin and chili powder, and call it a day. I may not like to cook, but what I do cook is damn good. Some folks would marry my ass for my macaroni and cheese alone.

Whoever invented the Crock-pot deserves a friggin' prize. In fact, whoever invented the Crock-pot is more deserving of a Nobel prize than certain Nobel winners, and you all know who I'm talking about. Asshat. But I don't have the energy to address that today. (Yes, I heard that sigh of relief. Whatever.) Anyway, I am all about some one-pot or one-skillet-meals. Less work, fewer dishes, tastes great, everyone wins.

Besides being fast, cheap and easy, the other thing I like about one-pot-meals is it makes a shitload of food, so you've got leftovers. And some foods, like chili, lasagna, and spaghetti, taste better the second day anyway. I love leftovers, because I hate to cook. Leftovers make the whole thing seem worth it. More bang for your buck. Or, more accurately, more bang for your kitchen efforts.

So tonight, I've got some hellacious chili and cornbread to go with my Desperate Housewives and Brothers & Sisters, I've got lunch for tomorrow, and possibly tomorrow's dinner too. TV time packed full of protein, can't beat that.

This Old Motherfucking House: Episode III

Episode III: The Smoking Outlet

In Episode 1, Colder Than A Witch's Tit, we watched Cowbell tackle home heating issues in the crawlspace.

Episode 2, Snakes in a Drain, found the Cowbell family in a race against nature while battling blocked pipes.

Tonight, watch Cowbell scramble for the breaker box in today's shocking conclusion, The Smoking Outlet.


You know that old saying about bad things coming in threes? Yeah. But first, an update on that furnace bullshit from episode one.

So I spent an entire day on the furnace problem. The special order filters arrived. I measured, cut, wrapped, clamped, and dragged the whole maddening mess down to that coldass bitch called a furnace. The hammock didn't want to slide back in exactly right. Turns out I had the clamps on backward. The door didn't want to screw back on. I used a lot of duct tape on the door. There was cursing involved, and yes, some kicking. Not hard -- couldn't really draw back for a big wind up, given the limited space.

Also, I got that hole in the duct work repaired, which was a real bitch. It took hours and involved using a metal thing shaped like a Popsicle stick to reach the areas my fingers couldn't. You try getting duct tape into a space that small without it sticking in the wrong place, while achieving an airtight seal, and see how cheery your ass stays. I tried to pry off part of the wall to give me more room to work, only to find my insulation is not the modern-day, pink fiberglass style with a cartoon character on the back. My insulation is old school. As in sawdust. Prying off the wall would mean losing my insulation. Thus the Popsicle-stick method.

But it was done. I was sore, my hands were torn up, and I was pissy as hell, but it was done. And I didn't have to pay the furnace guy. Score! We were more than ready for some heat.

Ten minutes later, the power went out.

Seattle does not weather wind storms well. The power did not come back on until the next day. Our house, of course, had not even built up any residual heat to hold onto. All that work, for naught.

Remembering last year's big wind storm, I dragged Teen Demon back under the house with me to wrap the water heater in the special water-heater blanket, so we could at least hold onto the hot water for a while. That was another hour and a half, more cursing, more duct tape. No kicking. You try custom cutting fiberglass shit hunched over in a dark crawl space with a neurotic dog pacing and howling overhead, and see how foul-mouthed you get.



Anyway. That's how the heating thing went down. The drains are steady and holding.

Which brings us to Episode III in this little DIY saga. So last week, I smell this plasticky, icky smell in my room. It's 4am, Teen Demon is waking my disoriented ass up to take her to the airport for a college visit. (They flew her out, trying to recruit her ass. Score, Teen Demon.) I noticed the smell, but forgot about it. A couple of days after, I go up to bed, same smell, but stronger. Like burning plastic. I narrow it down to my electrical outlet. Being no fool, I immediately unplug the lamp and go for my flashlight. (After the furnace and water heater fun, I'm surprised it has any juice left, but it does.) In the narrow beam of the flashlight, I see smoke coming out of my outlet.

Great. Fucking great.

So all that money I saved not calling the plumber and the furnace guy will now be added to even more money to call an electrician, the most powerful of all the Home Improvement Cadre.

Using my powers of observation and deduction, I realize that both episodes happened when the dryer was running. The dryer is in the garage, directly below my outlet. It's supposed to be a dedicated 220v outlet. (pleaseplease tell me some past homeowner didn't try splice into that line to create the outlet in my room...) The burning smell and the smoke were rising up through the wall and coming through my outlet. Now, I can replace a regular outlet -- I put in a GFCI outlet in the kitchen last year -- but that's regular 110v. electricity. Ain't no way in hell I'm messing with the 220v. electricity on that dryer. I got shocked by 220 once in Germany. Don't want to relive that.

Fuck.

So we've been hanging out at the laundromat. In all our spare time. Stay tuned for the exciting conclusion of ... This Old Motherfucking House. Actually, don't even let me tell that lie. The conclusion won't be until I sell this bitch. So stay tuned for further updates and comic relief. Yeah. Fun times.

Distribution of Wealth

Here are some interesting factoids I heard on NPR yesterday. I missed most of the story, so this is just a postlet.


The top 1% of the population holds 21.2% of the wealth.

The bottom 50% holds just 12.1% of the nation's collective wealth.
There are 410 families out there that are worth $1.54 trillion.


I was going to write more, but time flies -- especially when you start out to write a post, and end up chatting with sexy-hunk-of-man, funny-as-shit blogbuddies. You know who are, you skinny bitch.  Besides, I'm late to have a margarita meet with the women to discuss school district stuff.

Anyway, those little factoids should be enough to make you retch anyway. Don't want to overdo it.

Gotta run! Don't want to miss the call to order! Toodles...